I was talking to a client who is going into a negotiation with an employer who will use my client for contract work. My client wants a "win/win" solution. I reminded him that he didn't have to be responsible for the employer, that the employer could take care of his own interests. Sometimes we bend over backwards so far to be fair that we forget about putting our own interests top of mind. This is a message mostly for those who find they don't get their own needs met, for the "people pleasers" among us, not for those who want to win at all costs.